Self Acceptance: Tips to Change Your Tune

Self acceptance is not an easy thing to come by these days. We are constantly bombarded with media messages that seem to convey to us that we’re not good enough. Models and actresses are impossibly thin, and the grass always seems a little greener in someone else’s lawn.

Self Acceptance Tip One – It’s time to gain some self love by employing of a couple self love techniques. Are you too hard on yourself? Do you think you’re too this or too that, not enough this and not enough that? The first thing to do is stop the negative self talk. For one day every time you think something negative about yourself, make a note of it. Keep a count. You might be surprised at how often you are being too hard on yourself. Make it a point to stop the unkind mental chatter. Choose a key word or phrase that will remind you to shift your thoughts in a positive direction. You could say “next,” “shift,” or “flip it” – whatever – just have a word that triggers you to think positive.

Self Acceptance Tip Two – Now, let’s get real. How many times a day do you think negative things about someone else? Being overly critical of others also leads to self criticism. So learn to refrain from saying or thinking unkind things about others. If you watch TV shows where people are being cut down for how they look or the things they’ve done, change the channel. Don’t hang out with overly critical people either.

Try to focus on the positive things you see in yourself and others, and pretty soon it will become natural. You’ll stop looking for everything that’s wrong about yourself, and you’ll have the kind of self acceptance that you need to feel confident and loving toward yourself.

Self Love Friday Forum: Luxury Edition

Hi ladies! Happy Friday. So today’s Self Love Friday is a bit different than the previous two. Instead of a video, I wanted to throw out some fun ideas for stuff you can do this weekend to feel luxurious. It’s like a party for one, only lots of fun.

1. Get a massage.

If you’ve been working out this week and you’re sore, treat yourself to a massage. If money is a problem, check out your local massage therapy school to see if they offer massage for the public. Those students have to practice on someone. Or call around and find the best rate. There is an $8 massage studio in my town. Sweet!

2. Make your home luxurious.

That might mean something different to you than it does for me, but I like to have soft rugs underfoot and a soft blankie to curl up with on the couch or in bed while watching mindless TV or catching up on my favorite blogs. You might buy yourself fresh flowers and put them in a prominent place in your home and/or light your favorite candle. Heck, even cleaning your house to perfection will feel luxurious – that is – when you’re done with the cleaning part.

3. Get your hair done.

Get a cut and/ or color to shake up your self-expression a bit. I recently read a post by Gala Darling in which she said something I love, “You always know a girl is about to change her life when she changes her hair.” It’s so true! I’m about to get a new do myself. I’ll post a piccy when I do.

4. Get a manicure/pedicure or do one yourself.

Have you seen the fun nail polish colors in stores lately? There are so many amazing candy colors I have had to restrain myself from buying too many. A mani/pedi fresh coat of nail polish always makes me feel clean and spiffy.

5. Get some sun.

I know the weather is a mixed bag around the country right now, but if there are warm days in the forecast in your area, go out and soak up the sun for up to 15 minutes. You’ll replenish your vitamin D and feel great.

Self Love Friday Forum 2

Let’s talk about weight. When is more than enough too much? And why does it matter? Self love starts with doing what’s best for our bodies and our health.

Self Love Friday Forum: Issue No. 1

Welcome to the first ever Self-Love Friday Forum where I hope to start a dialog about social beauty standards, self-image, confidence, etc. The decision to get fit starts with a little self-love. If you’re lacking in this department or just want to sprinkle a little glitter on your day, watch the video and do the “challenge” given at the end.


Question: What don’t you like about your body (if anything) and why do you think that is? Does it have something to do with social beauty standards or not?

This video, above, offers an interesting and positive take on women’s body types. Have you been called a pear shape? Not anymore, doll!

Question: What do you think of the video? Do you think renaming body types will help to positively alter women’s self-image?

What size is right for you?

This is for all of you who are bummed about society’s beauty standards.